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Saturday, December 30, 2006

Online Dating Safety

By Tony Cohn

Think it's time to meet that special someone that you have been chatting online with, in person? Sure, you will take the basic precautions like telling a friend where you will be and meeting in a public place, but is that really enough?

Here are six of the most common pitfalls associated with Internet dating.

1. Scams

Many people have lost thousands of dollars or valuable property to people that they have met on the internet. Be very wary of anyone that asks for money or "falls in love" too soon.

2. Stalking

Think that the anonymity afforded by the internet can protect you? It can't. If you hand over personal information such as telephone number, address or e-mail you are a prime candidate for being stalked. Don't ever give out your personal information to anyone online until you can verify their background and intentions.

3. Violence

Far too many people have been physically assaulted by people they have met online. Many dangerous people with criminal records are using the Internet to prey on innocent victims.

4. Mental and Emotional Abuse

Abuse is not confined to physical injury. A great majority of people have been harassed, humiliated, terrorized and threatened via online communications.

5. Identity Theft

Once again, never give out your personal information to anyone online. Many unscrupulous individuals will try to gain your trust in order to steal your identity.

6. Adultery

Up to 30% of people using Internet dating services is married. Though no method is fail-safe, many of the dangers listed above can be avoided by doing a background check on anyone you plan on meeting.

Tip: If you are an avid online dater, save money and purchase a membership from an online background check company. Memberships let you perform multiple background checks for up to a month for one low price.

Founded in 2006, People Search News is a Sacramento, California based non-commercial online source for people search and people finder related news and information.

Friday, December 29, 2006

Successful Online Dating

By Barry Ohman

For those of you who have never bothered trying online dating, there is nothing to fear if you do things right from the start. You will find that honesty is the key to successful online dating and I'll give you some hints as to how to go about doing this.

To start with you have to choose an online dating site that suits your needs in which you are looking for in online dating. This involves a lot of factors which include sexual preference, ethnicity, age, and many others that will help you determine the online dating site that will meet your needs and requirements.

Before you choose an online dating site it would also be wise as for you to check their alexa.com ranking as you need not to waste your time with unpopular online dating sites. You would also be wise to check out complaints about an online dating site as well; though you may find some complaints are the results of people not reading the Terms and Conditions of an online dating site prior to joining.

Once you have found the online dating site that suits your needs and requirements, it is time for you to sign up and fill in your personal information for your personal profile. This is where you have to be honest with the information that you provide about yourself.

If you misrepresent yourself with information that is untrue you will eventually be found out and it may cost you a potential relationship. You have to be honest with the information that you post about yourself as well for what you are looking for in a potential date that you may meet.

It is in your best interest also to provide photos of yourself for your personal profile. Those that do not post photos with their personal profiles are more than likely not to get as many responses as those that have provided photos. You must provide photos of yourself that are recent as you will only disappoint someone if you appear different than what your photo showed with your personal profile.

When you are writing your personal profile I would suggest that you write with some flare when describing yourself as well as what you are looking for in a potential partner. You should write to make yourself sound interesting to those that may take time to read your personal profile and may end up responding to you.

If you are successful to make this far in your online dating quest, you will more than likely meet that special someone that you have being looking for. Best of luck and hope you are successful in your online dating endeavors.

My name is Barry Ohman and my wife and I have started our own online dating website. As we met via an online dating site, we decided to start our own online dating website called http://www.online-dating-advisors.com

Monday, December 25, 2006

How To Screen Online Profile Pictures

By Scot McKay

This is an acquired skill. It isn't learned overnight. But if you are doing the online dating thing want to avoid some serious drama, you'll…um…need mad skeelz.

And you know what I'm talking about. You sort through people online, say at Match.com or Yahoo Personals. Some look interesting, but…the deal with the pictures is, you know, sketchy. Here's the crash course on screening online profile pics. It's not an exact science, but there are some short-cuts and tell-tale signs that are virtually infallible. You may not agree, and your mileage may vary, so send me your feedback. Also send me your ideas that you would have included.

Okay, first of all…you are NOT "shallow" if you want to see what the person looks like. Get that weight off your shoulders. If anyone ever says this to you again, feel free to tell him or her McKay is to blame for your attitude. I can live with that. This is a key component of attraction, whether people potentially unattractive to you like it or not! Don't be played into thinking you are unreasonable by someone with no picture for asking. And don't be duped into meeting the person either.

Of note also here are those with no picture (or even one substandard one) who claim, "I am incredibly hott, but have no/bad pictures because I: 1) Don't have a digital camera, and have no friends with one either,… 2) am computer illiterate, despite my ability to complete this profile, and… 3) fear being seen by coworkers/friends and embarrassed." Don't buy it. Any of it. If there's something bothering this person about being seen by others, and you are REALLY intrigued, then maybe ask for the pics to be emailed to you. This has actually panned out for me exactly one time in three years. If you get more excuses at that point, you've gotta jett…period. Bear in mind that people with no pics may not just be insecure about their appearance. Some may be MARRIED. Or WANTED in six states! Think about that one for a while. People with one picture that's either fuzzy or very limited in view aren't off the hook here, either. Ask for more pictures-it's okay. "I have a picture up there already, and that's what I look like" doesn't cut it as an excuse.

Here are a few more silver bullets on this subject. Glamour Shot=Run Away. Seriously. If he or she has webcam capture pics only, same story (although requesting that he or she get on the cam for you isn't a bad idea). Also, look out for the pic that's a very close-cropped face shot…that's not enough to go on. And keep your eyes open for clear signs that the pics are not exactly new or accurate. One of my personal favorites was the woman who talked about having a 12-year-old son in her profile, and the pic was of her holding an infant! When I called her on it, she said, "Yeah, it's okay. I still look exactly like that." Hmmm. I have also seen people in their mid to late twenties who have posted pictures from high school, it turns out. That's just wrong on many levels, if you think about it. I mean, how creeped out is a brother supposed to feel for finding pics of a 27 y.o. woman attractive-who's actually 16? You get my drift.

The other thing--and you've seen this for sure--is the person with 20 pictures up…ALL of which look completely different! I've seen women with pictures so diverse that you'd swear an entire sorority was sharing one profile. Hair color, various stages of weight gain/loss, age differences, etc. Interestingly, I have found that there is virtually no indication as to which of the pics someone is going to really look like, with two exceptions: 1) The bigger the body, the greater the likelihood of current accuracy, and… 2) The ones with the tattoos are probably newer. That said, I've met women who look like NONE of their umpteen pictures, which perhaps serves as a reasonable indictment of the entire purpose of the pics to begin with, right? Also a potential question mark is the person who teases you with the promise of "12 pics", all but one of which are dogs, sunsets, BMWs, Paris, etc. What is that about? Is the subject of the profile not "enough" to impress me? If not…well…you get it.

Look also for subtle (or not so much) clues about someone's true personality in the pics. You know this guy. He's the one who's such a "loyal, family-man" type in the profile, and posts the picture where you can see what's going on at the "gentlemen's club" in the background. Listing examples here could go on all day.

So what are some indicators that the pics are good and accurate? Well, first…consistency. Several pics that are clearly of the same person is a plus, assuming they all aren't from the same photo session or something. In this case, you can usually be sure that s/he might look like that when and if you meet. Be careful here, because some people are either very photogenic or not. Feel free to ask that question, and listen closely to the answer-which might be surprisingly candid. Actually if someone says, "I take TERRIBLE pics!" that tends to be a good sign. If you think about it, that makes sense if you are already liking what you see. Next, variety. A face shot, a full-body shot, indoor, outdoors, casual, formal, silly, serious, smiling, serious, etc. If people have nothing to hide here, they shouldn't and typically won't. I'm not talking about bikini shots being necessary here though, and the general consensus among women I've noticed is that they'd rather guys keep their clothes on in profile pics. So you know what I mean.

Interestingly, disclaimers in the text of a profile about the pics are usually accurate…be they good or bad. I'm not quite on board with the woman who had five or six pictures, only to say on the last line of her tome-like profile that she had "gained fifty pounds since the pics were taken" (refer to "games"). Nonetheless, if someone says something to the effect of , "Yes…I'm 42 and the pictures are recent", you are likely dealing with someone who truly is looking good for his or her age.

So there are a few ideas to get you started. I good by-product of this discussion might be to re-evaluate one's own pics, right?

Sunday, December 24, 2006

How To get The Most From Dating Services

By Morgan Hamilton


Do you want to try one of those online dating services? This is one of the options that is available to all single adults living in this day and age. I think that it's the best way to meet new and exciting people who are looking for more excitement in life. There are countless possibilities when you're connected to the World-Wide-Web.

The power of the Internet gives us the ability of being in touch with anyone across the globe. Things have certainly become more convenient and accessible these days. Over the last few years the phenomenon of cyberspace dating services has become very popular. Singles around the world are getting in on the online dating game.

The possibilities of online dating are really intriguing. For instance, it’s exciting to wonder about who you could possibly meet today. It could be an exotic beauty from a country an ocean away. Now, there’s no need to fret because a single plane ticket can bring the two of you together in no time at all. Of course, you could also use online dating services to pinpoint some amazing individual in your immediate or surrounding areas.

You can start by chatting with another single on IM for a while before proceeding with a date once you feel comfortable enough to meet in-person. This is what's so high-tech and awesome about online dating. You only have to meet those you choose to meet. You can simply click off your PC of Mac if there is clearly no spark between you.

The narrowing process is probably one of the greatest advantages of online dating services. It can be really difficult to meet others who truly share your interests, goals and passions in life. However, cyberspace dating services can help you search for singles who share your views.

You should pop open Google.com if you want to access new-age online dating services and get started today. Simply punch in the key words "dating services" and you will be shocked by all the great and helpful results. This is the perfect time to stop hanging out on your own. You can find someone to share your life and dreams with by delving into net-land and checking out online dating sites right now.

Friday, December 22, 2006

Get More Replies From Single Women When You're Online Dating

By Jason King

The one fundamental for online dating to work for you is to get replies from your messages from other single women. With out getting any replies your efforts are wasted, and it probably won’t be long before you give up your online dating adventure. In fact over 90% of single men give up online dating within 3 months. This is not due to them not being enthusiastic, it’s because online dating is different to meeting someone in a bar or club.

Generally, single men take their bar and club mentality into online dating, and expect the same results. When you’re in a club you can walk up to a woman, and ask her if she would like a drink. In a club this is a good way to break the ice. With online dating you have to make a much better impression. You’re in competition with hundreds or even thousands of other single men. You can’t just send a smile or flirt saying “Would you like a chat?”

When you’re online dating you have to compose an e-mail, and say something nice to the woman about something you have seen in her profile. This makes your message stand out from the crowd. A very attractive women will usually receive hundreds of smiles or flirts a week on a popular online dating service. Most of these will just get deleted as she will already know what they’re going to ask her.

If she sees an e-mail amongst her messages she will be more inclined to have a look to see what it says, and then you have grabbed her attention.

The next important part of her replying to you is having your profile set up properly. Have a nice clear photo of yourself where it’s easy to see yourself. If you have a photo taken from too far away, or one with you and your mates in it you’re not going to impress her that much.

Once you have impressed her enough with your photo, you then want to give her something to read that will further grab her attention. Talking about exciting hobbies, and generally making yourself sound like a fun, active guy will give her a good reason to want to get to know you more.

Make it easy for her to reply to you by sounding very approachable. Be positive in everything you say in your profile. Any negativity will just turn everyone off of you. Add some wit to your profile if you can make it sound good. If humor isn’t your thing then it’s best to stay away from it. If they end up laughing at you instead of with you they will only click off of your profile.

Once you have experimented with the advice above you will start seeing more replies in your inbox. Online dating is something that can be mastered with a little bit of practice.

Thursday, December 14, 2006

Christian Online Dating: Worth a Try?

By David Kamau

In this day and age, as people get more content at letting the internet play matchmaker, Christian online dating continues to gain acceptance and popularity. But is it worth trying?

The internet is one of the safest portals for meeting other people for dating or a serious relationship. And with online dating trends gravitating towards specialty and community-based dating, we see an increase in the number of sites catering to Christian online dating.

There are advantages to this phenomenon. Some of the advantages include:

1. Wide net: You can search thousands of profiles of people sharing the same faith. There's a vast Christian network that has varied interests, hobbies, likes and dislikes. The big number gives you a better chance of finding one that you like.

2. Christian online dating provides a very comfortable environment and- though you still must exercise caution and commonsense- is considered safe. The online dating community is a place where you can create lasting relationships for acquaintance, friendship, companionship, romance, and can even lead to a permanent commitment.

3. In a Christian online dating site, the center is spirituality. People here believe they have filtered out the dates with people who may not share the same set of values. If you are joining a Christian online dating site, you'll know what you can expect.

4. You can narrow the field even farther down to an even more specific faith such as Catholic, Latter Day Saints (Mormon), Seventh Day Adventists etc.

5. You can be specific as to the level of religious commitment, to match your own. To some people going to church every Sunday may be deemed "Christian" enough; for others it could be more or less.

A Christian online dating website should include chat rooms where you can have fun discussions, both personal and biblical. In most sites, you can also post memos and notes on message boards and share pictures with photo galleries. And of course, you can send personal messages to private mail boxes.

Many dating websites also feature instant messaging and voice introductions for a more personal touch. Some of the Christian websites even offer Christian dating services aside from online matching.

Indeed, dating a stranger sharing your beliefs would be more reassuring than starting with somebody who does not share the same principles.

And as implied, the online society is Christ-centered. And by association, Christ is all pure love and kindness. If you join the group, this indicates you support Christian values and standards. Meeting the love of your life could be a possibility!

The Christian community now utilizes this current trend of communication to widen their reach and to create a fun-loving environment. Christian online dating has proved to be very effective for most people who participate with friendships and often blooms into serious relationships.

Sunday, December 3, 2006

Webcam And Online Dating

By Kum Martin

Online dating is popular because you can meet anyone from any corner of the globe right at your home through your computer. Online dating is the right move for someone who is shy or a loner. You can date without having to take your date to restaurants, clubs or bars!

If you are planning on online dating then you should invest some of your precious money on a webcam. If you want to be successful then a webcam is a must. It will allow you to see the person you are contacting to ensure they are who they say they are. Yes, photographs are posted on online dating sites but often they are old, unclear or morphed. A webcam will give you the true picture of the person and it is also a lot more personal. You can actually see and talk to the person simultaneously. You will be able to judge the person’s reactions and check out their expressions.

A webcam will also be useful when you have finally made up your mind to meet the person. You will actually recognize the person without having to worry about who you are going to be meeting. Remember as a word of caution, when you are meeting the person the first time, always meet in a public place no matter how long you have been dating the person online. If you intend meeting the person in lonely and private place, always take a friend or family member along.

Online dating is a wonderful experience and you meet someone who suits your personality traits and your likes and dislikes. The webcam will help make this a better experience and you will be actually seeing the person. What you see is what you get!